This is glorious. And little did I know that I would need some gloriousness in my day. It is one of the most delicious cups I have ever had. It was unexpected, for sure. It is very saffron-y, both dry and steeped. I also had no idea how much I would love the cedar scent and flavor that gave an almost boozey aspect. I also really tasted the vanilla in this one, particularly in the second steep when the saffron and cedar chilled out a bit. So great. SO so great. Now I am paranoid of running out. Eep.
Storytime: Online Dating Blows
I just had a terrible phone call, talking to a guy I met here on OkCupid. A guy I’ve been talking to via text and email literally nonstop for days. I request a phone call as the next step. He was normal and able to interact via email, and text. On the phone he was uncomfortable and stiff with overtones of superjerk. Pretty much said all teachers whine too much about how their job is hard when it really is such a cushy job they have no right to complain about anything. And while I agree there are many perks (summers and holidays off, etc), cushy is not the word I would use to describe my future profession (that he knew I was going into).
Even after that I was nice. I asked other questions. Every answer he gave was “I don’t know” followed by dead silence because I literally didn’t know how to respond, until he finally qualified his answers. Eventually I just asked why he was having so much trouble talking to me when he had no problem using text. He basically said he didn’t know what I wanted him to say, unable to grasp that if he would say it over text, he should say it with his actual voice. No more, no less. So I suggested we call it a night.
I have never, ever, in my whole life been in a situation with so much social failure with interaction. Nobody here knows me in person but if they did, they would know I am incredibly socially adept with conversation. Even if they are very awkward people. Ask about enough stuff and eventually you HAVE to hit on a topic that triggers an interest or a memory that could lead to a conversation. But what do you do about a man who, when asked what two pizza toppings he would pick if he could only have two his whole life, says cheese because he doesn’t need complicated pizza? TOPPINGS ARE NOT A COMPLICATION. I can’t even handle it. He didn’t seem stupid an hour ago. I don’t know what happened. Now I am feeling a bit like a dating failure. lol. And frustrated with the whole dating process.
I needed good tea today.
Comments
Ugh, I’m sorry the phone call was such a fail. It sounds like you did everything you could do be interactive, create conversation and take an interest in him. Don’t feel like a failure – you can do everything right, but conversations and relationships require the input and efforts of both people, and he clearly was giving you anything.
I hope you meet someone awesome soon. You deserve awesome.
You totally are not a failure! Guys are lame. Tea is not.
You’re not a failure at all! Dating (and teaching!) is not for the faint of heart.
Thank you both – I needed a good night’s sleep, and a good cup of tea. :)
Ugh, I’m sorry the phone call was such a fail. It sounds like you did everything you could do be interactive, create conversation and take an interest in him. Don’t feel like a failure – you can do everything right, but conversations and relationships require the input and efforts of both people, and he clearly was giving you anything.
I hope you meet someone awesome soon. You deserve awesome.
I just encounter more than my fair share of weirdos in this process. I have little tolerance for it anymore. It is SO weird to me that he was baffled by a question about pizza toppings. Seriously, he was confused. FML.